العربية
اللَّهُمَّ لَا تُؤَاخِذْنِي بِمَا يَقُولُونَ، وَاغْفِرْ لِي مَا لَا يَعْلَمُونَ، وَاجْعَلْنِي خَيْرًا مِمَّا يَظُنُّونَ
Transliteration
Allahumma La Tu'akhidhni Bima Yaqulun, Waghfir Li Ma La Ya'lamun, Waj'alni Khairan Mimma Yazunnun.
اردو ترجمہ
اے اللہ! جو کچھ یہ کہتے ہیں اس پر میری گرفت نہ فرما، جو یہ نہیں جانتے اسے میرے لیے بخش دے، اور مجھے ان کے گمان سے بہتر بنا دے۔
English
O Allah, do not call me to account for what they say, forgive me for what they do not know, and make me better than what they think.
Tareef wali dua ka source aur attribution
Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 761 reports ke Nabi ﷺ ke Companions mein se kisi person ko praise kiya jata to woh Allah se request karta ke logon ke words par account na le aur hidden faults forgive kare. Report wording ko Companion practice ke taur par present karti hai.
“Waj'alni khairan mimma yazunnun” longer addition Shu'ab al-Iman mein cited hai aur commonly Abu Bakr رضی اللہ عنه se associated ki jati hai. Page intentionally “Prophet ﷺ ki Sahih dua” label use nahi karta, kyun ke accessible evidence attribution ko us level par establish nahi karti.
Allahumma La Tuakhidhni meaning
First part praise ke words ko self-deception banne se bachata hai. Second hidden shortcomings ke liye forgiveness seek karta hai. Final part reputation se better actual character mangta hai—public image aur private reality ke gap ko Allah ke samne acknowledge karta hai.
Humility ka matlab genuine skill deny, compliment reject ya self-hatred nahi. Person “JazakAllahu khairan” keh kar thanks de sakta hai aur inwardly Allah ko credit karta hai. Dua ego control hai, healthy gratitude ko destroy karna nahi.
Kisi ki tareef karne ka Islamic etiquette
Sahih al-Bukhari 6061 excessive face-to-face praise ke risk ko warn karti hai aur careful language sikhati hai: agar praise zaroori ho to apni observed assessment state karein aur final accountability Allah ke paas rakhein. Absolute purity certificate na dein.
Workplace feedback specific behavior par ho—“report clear thi”—na ke exaggerated holiness or guaranteed intention par. Children ko effort praise karein, superiority identity nahi. Public praise privacy issue ya peer pressure create kare to private appreciation better hai.
Tareef, riya aur mental balance
Compliment ke baad apni intention renew karein, lekin every positive feeling ko riya diagnose na karein. Persistent guilt, obsessive religious fear ya inability to accept normal feedback distress create kare to qualified mental-health professional and trusted scholar se balanced support lein.
Online metrics, likes and awards temporary signals hain. Dua user ko reputation management se character development ki taraf return karti hai. False modesty bhi performance ban sakti hai; truthful thanks, quiet self-review aur consistent ethical action healthier response hain.
